Eight Dates: To keep your relationship happy, thriving and lasting

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The Turn-Toward Date: This date is focused on building emotional connection and intimacy through understanding and responding to each other’s needs and emotions. The goal of this date is to help couples become more attuned to each other’s emotional states, and to learn how to respond to each other’s needs and emotions in a supportive and caring way. This date is designed to help couples build a deeper emotional connection and intimacy with each other, and to create a more supportive and loving relationship. To do this, couples can practice active listening and empathic responding, which involves listening attentively to each other’s emotions and needs and responding in a caring and supportive way. This can help couples build a deeper emotional connection and intimacy with each other, and can also help them feel more supported and understood by their partner. I really enjoyed this book. For every book, no matter how great, there's always critics or things that don't appeal to some. I'm glad I didn't let those opinions stop me from purchasing this. I was expecting good things from Eight Dates, and boy did it deliver. The book is divided into eight sections, one for each date. The dates cover eight of the most meaningful, important, and, often, contentious topics that couples deal with: trust and commitment, conflict, sex, money, family, fun and adventure, growth and spirituality, and dreams. Before the dates are introduced, an intro gives characteristics of successful marriages, as well as advice on how to have an intimate conversation and how to listen.

Before you each come together to discuss, think about how you think about trust and commitment in your relationship, and how you make each other feel safe and loved. You can jot it down on a piece of paper, so that when you come together, you can easily remember your thoughts and see if you each feel the same way, or if your ideas are different.The dates were designed by John and Julie Gottman, along with their co-authors Doug and Rachel Abrams. John has spent the last four decades studying thousands of couples to understand what makes some relationships thrive and others fail. Julie is an award-winning clinical psychologist who’s worked with thousands of individuals and couples. They’re leaders in the world of love and relationships. Arguments about the unpaid work in a relationship (chores and childcare) tend to cause the most conflict.

John Gottman, PhD, is a world-renowned psychologist, best-selling author, researcher, and expert on marital and parent-child relationships. He co-founded the Gottman Institute with his wife, Julie.This week’s conversation is all about strengthening the level of trust and commitment in your relationship. Eight Datesprovides an excellent framework to help couples have these easy-to-avoid but crucial conversations. Keep in mind that “8 dates” doesn’t have to be a one time deal; people and relationships evolve over time — you can (and should!) continue to have these types of conversations throughout the course of your relationship. This challenge is just a way to start to build the habit.